are we really supposed to have one "love of your life"? Somehow I can't bring
myself to believe it. That's not to say I don't believe in true or lasting
loves, but that almost fairytale like greatest love just does not seem like it
could actually happen. Perhaps I see it this way because I see love as being a
decision, an act of the will, lived and carried out in the day to day of life.
And that's not to say I don't believe in romance - I just have a rather
different view of it. For me, it's all about how you look at it, in a word,
it's all about perspective. The simplest actions, a touch of the hand, a look,
small things, the thoughtful things.
So many different paths and possibilities, who or what's to say that this one or
that one is the only one for you? We are as adaptable as any other animal, to
situations and people. Love happens all of the time, it's the day to day stuff
that makes everything hold together and stay somewhat sane. It's not knights in
shining armor, or dancing in the clouds happily ever after...
*sigh*
..so why is there a part of me that wishes it were everything I think it's
not?
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Because then it would be easy. If love "happened", as opposed to being-made-to-happen, then one wouldn't have to work for it. And we all gravitate toward the easy; it isn't just you.
This is not an answer; it's an observation. I have opportunity to meditate upon this, as an old crush gets married Saturday. Well, perhaps I shouldn't say "old", but I am unsure in what manner the shreds remain. (What is there to love?)
Yes, what is there to love? What is love? It's a question I have that has never been answered, perhaps never can be answered until I define what context it needs to be answered in.
I don't believe, either, that there is one person we need to love, if love is taken a certain way. I can prove this by personal experience.
Yet if love is taken another way, there is and only can be one person we need to love. And I think this latter kind of love is the kind maintained by the small simple things. The will comes not in the creation but the maintenance of love. Love is maintained by "the simplest actions, a touch of the hand, a look, small things, the thoughtful things."
Thoughtful things conserve the relationship. Only one person, I would think, would be able to consistently do those thoughtful things.
hmmm. I need to think about this. I'll post on this later.
...or not....
True love is only limited to one person in that we can only truely be in love with one person at once. I deny anyone who claims they've loved two at once, it's just not possible. True love implies a complete giving of oneself to another, laying yourself and everything you are at their feet. Whether or not they pick up that gift doesn't matter, you can't give it to someone else at the same time. If there are two people you claim to truely love with a romantic love, then I say you're wrong in your analysis of your affection for them.
Since true love is limited to only one person at a time though, most people, especially those in love, feel like, since true love is timeless, you can never truely love more then one person, and everyone other then that person you do not truely love, but only think you do (I use love here as romantic love, leaving aside platonic love for now). This makes sense, since as was said, true love IS timeless, but the thing is, the gift which you offer can be taken up again. The person you offered it too will always be set apart since you once laid that gift at their feet, even if they didn't take it, but once you yourself take it up again, you can give it to someone else.
Sorry, I just like spewing about true love :P
Interesting things said, Sir Joe.
Is true love romantic or platonic?
I propose neither.
I could see someone having romantic, or platonic, relationships with several people at once.
Definition of romantic love, anybody?
Romantic love is the desire to be desired "I want you to want me, I need you to need me, I love you to love me". It is furthermore the desire to please, by word, action, and mere presence, to be to the one loved everything that they are to you, which is everything. True love is platonic, but that doesn't mean it cannot coexist with romantic love.
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